Wednesday, 12 September 2012

Blaming Marriage: On The Black Swan


Marriage, the minefield, marriage the greased up turd bowel, the anfractuous nightmare of metal fences, gunfire and fat wives frequenting their bookclubs where today's reading is The Story of O. The merit of the institution itself has been thrown around a lot recently in this corner of the interwebs, and there have been some great points made. However, there is one point that people don't seem to be discussing, and it is an extremely important one, so much so that the "be an alpha, get married!" ends up losing its shine pretty damn quickly.

That point is uncertainty.

Now, this is not uncertainty in the "holy shit will she kick my hole to the curve" certainty. That uncertainty is a subset of another uncertainty, merely, what will the future actually hold?

Let me expand. If you take a look at and check out the majority of Manosphere bloggers, you will find that the majority of their views come from 18-24 year olds. Despite the fact that the Manosphere is dominated by blogs of people well into their thirties (with the likes of Rollo and Danger, possibly Roissy, over the 40 year mark), this is an extremely young part of the web.

Let's take Ireland's marriage. The median? 32 years old. Now, if you're an eighteen year old Irishman who just stumbled on Roissy, you've got 14 YEARS before you hit the alter. Think about that. 14 to 8 years to get married. In the U.S.A it's a bit lower (something like 28), so 10 to 4 years. So, the people here that are telling you to get married are more than likely telling somebody who might not get married for another decade. What does that mean?

Well, shitting a brick and all, anything can happen in a time-span like that. Now of course you could say, that "Francis, but that's the case for all human endeavors, we never know when a Black Swan is going to hit!" and you are correct, but the world is different now. Time has sped up exponentially. Compare the Animaniacs watching 1990 to 2000 and 2000 to 2010's Family Guy fury. We now have the internet, cutting edge video games, widespread pornography, the uncensored and unadulterated flow of information, and social media websites. The world is becoming more and more complex, and trends that no one will be able to predict will come to pass, whether we like it or not. 

If I was my granddad, the structure of life, despite big changes, would still fundamentally stay the same. Now, compare him to us in 2012, where things are happening so fast, with so many things on the line. Marriage is 50 percent divorce? How do you know that in a decade's time, some ridiculous new legislation is not in place to exacerbate this, even if you have game and whatnot? What if there's an obesity pill invented and there's a surplus of good looking lassies? What about trans-humanism? What if it as Mangan says, 80 percent of people will be overweight in America, circa 2020? You alpha kid? I'd like to see how alpha are you when everyone is going for the anorexic chick.

Now, you can make extremely intelligent guesses, and those are all we have. Gold is still god. Single motherhood is still shitty etc.  But now, we have two big problems in relation to marriage.

1: The world is becoming increasingly unpredictable, and due to big government, the internet, will become increasingly tumultuous.

2: The stability, the ability to predict things, is weakened when the nuclear family is so fragmented anyway. Look at demographics. The happy family you're in could be brought down on your head because everyone else is unhappy.

So, to all those recommending marriage? You're recommending marriage to a group of people who on average, won't get married for another decade, and based on numbers which are quite static. The beast is bigger than before. Screw the whole thing.


  1. Its funny, as I wrote one of those marriage articles, that to all of my younger single friends my advice is 'Don't do it.'

    1. Again the argument goes the other way. Marriage might be a much better idea for someone who'll go down that road in a decade's time, than say now.

      But, I really, really don't think it will work out like that...

  2. As a married man, my advice is uniformly "Don't do it!" when I hear of impending nuptials.